How would you end this sentence? "It would be nice if.."
I want you to take a pause right now and really think about what it is you want for yourself. Be careful not to fall into the trap of thinking about what you don't want.
If you want to say something like, "It would be nice if I wasn't stressed all the time," try replacing with, "It would be nice if I felt relaxed."
"One's destination is never a place, but rather a new way of looking at things." - Henry Miller
In order to catch yourself in the negativity trap, you have to be aware of your thoughts in general. In other words, where are you right now? What kind of thoughts are circling around in that big brain of yours? What are you feeling?
Throughout my entire pregnancy (as I write this, I am due to deliver next week), I have been hyper-aware of my mindset. I have actively caught myself when slipping back into my old control-freak ways.
You see, I am a recovering perfectionist and over these last several years have been re-learning how to allow instead of micromanage every aspect of my life. It's a work in progress...
This particular week, I found myself really harping on my to-do list of things I want to finish before my 2nd son is born so that I can relax and enjoy my time with him without feeling pressure to do all the things.
The self-limiting thoughts came reeling in... "In order to be able to do that, I need to do this first." The reality is, I don't. I don't need to get anything at all "done" so that I can be fully present and enjoy my time with him when he arrives. I can do that no matter what.
So, clearly I know these things. Why do I keep falling into the trap?
One of the reasons is that we hold our thoughts, beliefs, expectations, desires - all of the mental aspects of ourselves - within our energy field. When certain emotions are triggered, these thoughts become a part of our experience.
Can this be healed? You're damn right it can! Will it happen immediately? Probably not... The longer you've been holding onto these beliefs, the more practice and consistency it will take to re-wire your way of thinking.
Trust me, it's worth the time and effort.
What it takes is learning skills and integrating them into your routine to peel back the layers and get to the root of that thought. This helps to pave the way for new, healthier and more soul-aligned thoughts and emotions to take their place.
The best advice I could possibly give is to seek support in this mission. You don't have to do it alone, nor should you. Click below to schedule a session and I'd be happy to help guide you as you begin (or continue) this journey.